In regard the post about older men in my magazine, I am interviewing a retired man who owns his own beautiful home up above Fairbanks and is looking forwarding to meeting a woman his age who is young at heart, active and loves to travel. He takes off for Australia occasionally and is not afraid of challenge in his life. Watch for him coming up, he is a cutie.
Ok, yes, there are older men in the magazine. It seems like there are a lot of women looking for the 55+ age group and I always feature older men in our magazine. They are not as abundant as the middle aged ones, sometimes they are shy to try to get into a relationship after a divorce, or being widowed. I have had to talk a few of them into it, they just thought no one would want them now. If you are a woman in that age group, do not give up, and you might just consider someone in the age group perhaps 10 years younger than you are. Start by taking a look at the men available in the magazine. You just have to look at them and figure which would be a possible match and then communicate with him.
Women who are in the 55+ age group have lived and learned great wisdom. Some have achieved a lot in their life and are retired and want to do something else. Well, if you are at that turning point in your life, let’s see where it takes you! Susie
I RECEIVE THIS EMAIL FROM A GAL: “Susie, I met an Alaska man on another website and we seem to hit it off great. I visited him, he visited me (I live in Iowa) and so I decided to quit my job of 5 yrs and sell my possessions and move up to Alaska. I lived in Alaska previously so I knew what I was getting into. I was up there for two months and it was a long 2 months I tell you. Although this guy is dynamic, energetic and most people like him, he was not ready for a relationship. He has lived alone for the past 13 yrs in a cabin with no plumbing and just a wood stove for heat. I thought I was moving up there to be with him. He said he was ready for me but I guess not. I guess what I am saying is I hope any woman who considers moving to Alaska to be with a man up there thinks long and hard about it and that they are warned. Maybe the fault is mine and I shouldn’t have taken the chance but now here I am, back in Iowa without a job and feeling totally blown out of the water!!
“You know, the guy that I will leave unnamed is an awesome innovative person who deserves some recognition for his talents. He does extreme ski trips in the winter all by himself for 2 weeks at a time. He sews all of his own ski gear. He races in the Ski Classic and won a couple of times. He truly lives off the land and loves Alaska very much. I am sad to say that I guess I was just not the person for him. I do know he is looking for a special someone to share his extremely different lifestyle with. It just was not me.. He is very handsome and fun to be around. He would look great on your cover! To say that he is eccentric is putting it mildly. It will take a very rugged, tough woman who does not need a lot of nurturing to be his partner.
“Anyway, I am not exactly sure why I wrote to you. I don’t mean to sound like a whiner. I took a chance and I lost. I hope anyone who gets a good guy through your magazine should consider herself blessed and I wish her well. Thanks for your time.”
MY REPLY TO HER WAS: Ok, it sounds like you jumped into this without knowing all the answers and questions. You said you visited each other, but somehow everything changed. When people get to know each other, they want to look and sound their best for the other person. That is called “The Social Veneer” In other words who you are when you are meeting Prince Charming and when he is meeting Cinderella. In real life though there might be some issues that just don’t work for either one of you. Obviously there was, roughing it out in the woods is not for everyone. Going off two weeks at a time on ski trips, didn’t he tell you about that? You say he needs a woman who does not need a lot of nurturing to be his partner, I hope you can see where you were not asking the right questions when you were together. Sometimes, people don’t want to see the signs, they just want it to somehow work out and live happily ever after. Use this as a good lesson, allow yourself some time to assess, and ask questions. Don’t try to make it happen by ignoring what you don’t want to see. Susie
Men usually are referred to me by friends or relatives who see better than the men that they need a helping hand. The men here are not desperate, they are just hard working trying to do their job, and sometimes take care of kids. There are women in their areas, they are usually already married or perhaps not someone they are attracted to and there just isn’t a spark there. I find the men to be sincere, honest and loving. I am not saying they are perfect….they are men!
Everyone asks me about Alaska! I can go on and on about Alaska! If you are the kind of woman who is independent you will love it here. People expect you to do your own thing and to have your own viewpoint. The men open the doors for you and are anxious to please.
If you are the type of gal who is more shy, then this is the place to find yourself. There is lots of space and lots of men. The thing I like most about AlaskaMen is that they are independent too, they are usually thinking ahead and aren’t afraid of responsibility.
Most of the men are geared to the outdoor life and healthy lives. I would say that 95% of the men here are non smoking. I see a lot of single dads, which is sad in one way because the reason they are single is that their wives have gotten too independent. I would say that a lot of the new style of woman that you see on TV and movies encourages that. I am not saying it is bad, just that sometimes women make choices when they are younger and then when they get older they find that life has changed for them and with that change they have found themselves sometimes lost and wondering what they are doing with their lives. Understanding that with each different stage in our lives brings about changes in ourselves is important and natural. I see women who have left their husbands and children in search of whatever is missing. Later they realize that that life they left behind was everything they ever really wanted.
Hi everyone! Due to popular demand, I have started up the AlaskaMen Blog to complement my ongoing efforts to help women find their soulmates. Check back from time to time and let me know what you think and share your ideas with us. With love, Susie